Well... As you might suspect, things here in Provo have been the worst thing ever that I have done. At first it was all going fairly well but, since being "released/let go" from my job because the store was robbed the final straw has landed and broken the camels back. I have never felt so unwanted as I do in my singles ward as I do here. Not that I have been a total recluse; I invite people over for dinner and to come and hang out, they do, but that's the last that I ever hear from them. I don't know what it is. I try to go out of my way to talk to people and I just get that look like "Who the Hell are you?" The count is up to the 6th consecutive girl that I ask out for just a casual date I have been shut down. I'm not doing anything too weird. I just sincerely say, "Hey, some friends of mine are going on a group date to go do such and such and I was wondering if I would be able to take you on a date?" Or, "What are you doing friday, well what about the two of us going out to eat/something like that." Then after usually long pauses there is some sort of excuse like, "oh I'm going to be doing something with my friends, sorry..." without even anything else like, "Sorry I'm busy that night but what about next Friday." It's just left at "sorry" and then the conversation is dropped. So, when I told people in the ward that I was moving home the first instinct was "Why?!" I honestly told them that most of the people are the biggest bigots, unfriendly, and I just feel so unwanted, there is just a look of shock on their faces and they then try to be my friend. I usually ask them, what are you doing, why are you SUDDENLY talking to me now? Before you knew that I was going to leave you didn't even acknowledge my presence. I sang in church, by myself and no one even said anything to me about it. Repeatedly I stood next to someone that spoke in church and they had no problem complimenting them on their talk but still, my presence was not even acknowledged.
Now you may be thinking that I'm over exaggerating this but I have yet to receive "hello," a "hi," or even anyone just "hey how are you doing?" No one has a problem with coming on by when there is a free ride of dinner or something else that is going to be provided by me, but after the fun and games I'm the only one left to clean up. I have tried to magnify my church calling in by repeatedly just checking in on my district of elders just to see how they are doing with their home-teaching, "Hey how's so and so doing?" The usual response is that they have yet to do it and then if I call there is no answer and never a reply to my message that I leave.
"Oh no, it's Cameron.. The BLACK PLAGUE!" The sad thing is that the only person that does acknowledge me is Katie Brenderburg, who is a teaching assistant for autistic children....
Wednesday, July 16, 2008
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C-Dawg!!!
COME HOME!!! I MISS YOU TONZ!! I'll go out on a casual date with you- well, that's if Im good enough.
-RT-
CAMERON!!!! What is going on? I know that it is so hard to be the "new" person around when most of the people have known each other for awhile. It is especially hard in a singles ward. Believe me, I know what I am talking about. But, one thing I learned is that you just have to jump in and be super friendly and fun - KEEP READING! It looks like you have done that but maybe instead of inviting people to your house invite yourself to theirs or to their group activities. Then people can get to know you in their environment where they feel most comfortable. It's really hard for a person to feel comfortable going on a date with someone that they don't really know. I'm sorry you feel so ostrasized (sp?) but my dear little brother you can't just tell people off - even when it feels and seems so appropriate. If you do then you will get a reputation as a total jerk and that is worse than having no reputation at all! I hope this doesn't make you mad - I tell you this because I love you!
I dont think you could have said it better..... I dont think I have ever been so sad in my life. I know that theres not alot that I can rightfully say to you, and you wont necessarily take it for what its worth. Simply put, I miss you.
HEY, I miss you! I'm sorry that things didn'y really work out but I would deff be lying if I said that I didn't like the idea of you coming home. And I kow that i'm not Mormon[orLDS] but if you'd like I'd totally go on a date with you. [thats if you're game] and I don't think the girls in provo know what they're letting go you sexy man beast. Try to stay happy and don't let petty peoplejelous of how great you are ruin your day, you're worth more that they'll ever be.
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